Abusive relationships

An abusive relationship does not have to be a physical one or one that you can spot from affair there are many ways to abuse your partner and we know this; the verbal, emotional,mental and so on.

We engage ourselves in toxic relationships at a very young age and that results to the loss of a partner, friend and child. The possessiveness in relationships is sometimes seen as sexy or "aaahhh he/she loves me", "no its the way he is but he/she will never hurt me". That is what you in the relationship would like to believe, because honestly it is not true. Once your partner starts to dictate what you can and can not wear, where you can and can not go, whom you can and can not see that is a sign of a toxic relationship. When you believe that all this is because of love and there is no life without your partner that is madness, you where born alone, you made family and friends and no one should try cut you off from those whom love you. If your partner talks down to you makes you feel dumb and in the wrong all the time, they breaking you to prepare you for the abuse. Abusers don't just evolve into violent freaks they kill you as a person first and then take control.

Once there are threats of, " I will kill you, I will commit suicide if you leave me, I will discipline you, Don't make me hurt you" that partner has crossed the line, do not wait for a hospital or coffin to show you the danger of such threats. Take a stand and get over the SICK person, tell them to get help because they may love you but love does not stand next to pain, it should be fun and enjoyable. I have friends that are in toxic relationships and it is even hard to open their eye to a dead relationship, how can we toss away our rights to be in a relationship, since when was it a first priority to have a relationship. If he is out with the boys why cant you, if she has male friends why cant you have female, if he can wear shorts why cant you wear skirts?

Simple things like do i respect him or am i afraid of him, can alert you of a toxic relationship and only YOU can get out of it, walk away yes its not easy but its worth it, LIFE goes on, we don't want to lose anymore friends and family to toxic relationships!