things that I have learnt, from failed and sucessful relationships...

Firstly get rid of the friends you do not need, friends that don’t take note of your new hairstyle friends that do not know how to complement you when you have done well or look good. Let them loose because, well girls are there to boost each other’s self confidence..You know the big secrete most girls won’t admit to, is that as very good friends (we don’t judge each other, we judge other people). You can never feel judged by your good friend chances are you will reply honestly and say “aaah” that’s soo true or no woman get your radar strait.

Honestly one doesn’t need a best friend because in most cases it ends up being the whole she is my crutch type of thing, if there is someone using you as a crutch remove yourself from that hospital relationship. By crutch friend I mean when you are the last person to hear their good news, crushes, success, plans etc. But conveniently the first person they can trust with their dirty mistakes and hard times, you the first one they call. The first they call when they need a real friend, lady get over it that little nana is not your best friend they are simply using your good qualities. Best friends do exist they are actually a lot of fun, they can sit in silence on the real and feel good, they have the biggest secrets that no one knows and it doesn’t have to be a circle of two it can be three or four just depends on how well you click with them. *always remember to give back to your friends as much as you want from them*

The hardest thing in a friendship is being able to voice your opinion and be against something your friend really wants but hey, what is friendship if I am going to say yes all the time. Something I have realised the hard way is that we all have different limits and everyone has their own moral compass, you can always advise your friend but you can’t make their decisions. This however should never stop you from loving your friend. It’s just harder when they fall because you have to be there to pick up the pieces well, that’s if you are a good friend.

Friendships can be built and broken with time, stay away from the friend who thinks little of you, the friend that is always fishing for you to pay them complements, the friend that is always looking for your comfort a friend that always says you look fine, a friend that never says no, a friend that feeds off you to better themselves and a friend who can’t pick up over a text or call that you’re in no good space..

SIMPLE IT’S JUST NOT FAIR, TAKE CARE OF YOUR HEART and you will never be friends with everyone some are just acquaintances.