have you met this man?

I met a man, a very sweet nice man, oh how wonderful this man was..

His presence always seemed so overwhelming, he is a silent lover. No one knows what he is about and no one knows what he is planning, and did this intrigue me? Oh yes no doubt about it…

The way he smiles for every mood, weather it be anger, happiness of silly jokes but its never the same laugh, and his laugh hahha I always said his just too private. This man didn’t laugh the same in public the way he did with me, he never looked at me like he looked at others…

This man must have been one of the strictest people I have met, so sure of what he wanted and so certain about where he wants to be in life. This was such a turn on for me, I was like oh yes someone else in this world who doesn’t fear facing the storms for their dreams..

I always wondered if he is a self made man, or a woman made man, it seemed he was self made..aaahhhh the way he walks and carries himself that’s what Im talking about subtle arrogance, he is aware of who he is and that is the reality of life…

Now when we face reality hahah, oh no was I on a dream or wonderland because ehm now this man is only known to me??

Why does everyone else know a different man? Ehm why is everyone else on another page.. and like any other woman I thought naaah they must be wrong because hello everything I felt was real duuuh!!

No man, this interesting is fake, this is not who he really is, this is all I know of him. Otherwise the reality is he let me peek at his broken soul.

Why do I say broken, broken because if anyone is comfortable with who they are and are aware of who they are then shux, they would be honest about it..

We would all know the same person, why was I only allowed on one page when he is in fact a whole book.. So.. was that his real name? is that his real personality? Is anything in fact he ever told me real??

Eish people have no idea how they can learn from one another..So, what do we learn from such things?, that yes life is wak and yes the older we grow the harder life is and its damages are harder..

But one thing I learnt is that I am not perfect and we all tell white lies, its just how white our white is hey. We should never judge people or even think we know them or what they are going through, because this thing we call human is a very special thing. We run the earth we live in the world, we develop pure things into bad mechanics, we raise innocent children to bow down to the bad world we live in..

Life..this thing called life…

simple broken heart

Do I regret being with you no

Do I regret meeting you no

Do I have good memories of you yes

Will I miss you yes

Do I want to no

Am I angry no

Did you hurt me yes

Did you humiliate and belittle me yes

Do I hate you no

Did I learn from you yes

Will I move on.. I don’t know but I will pray that you never be at the receiving end of what you did to me.

-IP

love of family and friend....

When we grow up to get caught up in relationships, school work and careers we need friends that are stable within your friendship.

This means that a friendship that doesn’t need a phone call every day but when that phone call is made, ahhh all days are broken. I have a group of friends that are soo beautiful we are all different and in fact none of us have taken the same career path of one pair hahhah but still that’s besides the point.. the main point is that all of us are very different yet all of us find one common thing that keeps the friendship alive, we know how to love one another. Humans may like the idea of love they may even think they are in love but they don’t know how to love sometimes..its always just that one thing that can crack a friendship but then again always remembering that friendships are only as strong as the weakest person in the friendship.

Soo here goes ladies..

Siwe..our science lady she has her own style and own style of love, siwe is a calm and very emotional person however she is a strong person when it comes to supporting others. It is as though she has no idea how special and important she is, secretly as ger friend I sometimes she feels she sells herself short..but that’s just me hahahaahah whispers..all in all im sure we all love the self-less siwe-beeee..

Akhonke…the no party little journalist in the group hehehehe this one doesn’t even bother we beg and plead but she wont go out and rock the streets with us however she part takes in everything else.. this is the baby of the group the youngest little bambino she has an older sister in the group but we all mother her, she is such a sweetheart always keen on listening even when we come back in the early hours telling her our drama.. and most special about her is he wild loud laugh*

Sammy…the organiser hmm now this is where we all know the dates and final decisions are recorder sammy is the perfectionist in every aspect of her life, she may be out having a good drink but she always knows where everyone is. We love the sammy as far as she is in EL, we still keep updating her hence the organiser she has a way of bringing all of us together and making sure we adhere to the group choice hahahaha..

Sosos the brai, I call her sosoltjie or soso-light hahaha she must be the smallest in the group yet the strongest, she never cracks I don’t think I have ever seen the soso lady cry, she has probably had tough times but she takes everything soo lightly that we must always double check if she is really ok.. She is he brain of the group ahahaha our over achiever graduate..

Sema…hmmmmmm is that lady of the group that will take her time, we will wait for her and she will make sure everything is fun..she loves perfect but she is all for unplanned..sema doesn’t compromise she is selfish in a good way when it comes to what she wants and what she deserves, I don’t blame her because when she gives to anyone she gives her best. Sema isn’t good with comfort but she has her own maniac way to do everything..

Buki stad..the stunner aaah such a sweet heart, she has the most forgiving heart in the whole group, I am sure at most times we have all wondered where does this girl come from why is her heart soo good, some think she is spoilt but buki is genuinely a good person she sees the best in every situation.

Zintle the naughty kid hahaha jokes we are all naughty but zintle hmm she is a strong bugger im sure most men hate her, she always has a chirp and ready to knock you down if you even think you are going to mess with her. Zintle is a sweeeeety she smiles all the time and laughs all the time she is easy to miss because she is soo easy to love..

Me haahahhaah…to be continued

Open letter from women to men..

We do not need you to protect our feelings with lies we need you to prepare us to love you.. That would mean we need to know the truth and make informed decisions when getting into relationships with you.. OK OK OK we will give you some credit its not easy to open up to a woman in the beginning but please at least have the audacity to keep quiet then, don’t open your mouth to lie then apologise later its damn old and patronising..

The saddest part of it all is that we know most men, some will say all men are wicked and selfish..But when he treats you right, you give him the benefit of the doubt..

This means opposite sex:

• Tell me about you ex girlfriend issues
• Tell me about your baby mama drama
• Tell me about your weaknesses
• Tell me that you have been an ass
• Tell me that you don’t want to settle
• Tell me its my body you are more interested in..
• Tell me you don’t give a damn about me if Im not in front of you
• Oh and please tell me that its just fun…

This may not seem easy to say but hey why let me fall for a glass relationship that is only going to leave me picking the glass pieces from my own skin..

And stop that junk about women are strong…SHUTUP! please what do you know about my strengths if you don’t even know what I want from you..

Is it hard? Is it that hard to be realistic? Is it impossible for you to think beyond the sex issue.. did you think that maybe women just want a relationship where they take care of you and you take care of their feelings I mean if you want to play a game why not respect me and say lets play the dating game…

Oh and please stop thinking that women are incapable of playing your stupefied games, we just don’t go around making fools of you guys, we are at least sensible when it comes to matters of the heart.. the worst part of it all is that you think and we think that we get over it but the reality is that just like burnt scars it never goes away we become damaged, we are filled with fear and insecurities in all the areas that you have taken a piece to screw over…every time the love tank is sunk low it leaves leaking holes..

And men still want to know why women are soo screwed up..

the female madness….=men

I have always wondered what women think when they confront one another about a man….

“ leave my man alone”..

“Uhmm really is it not your man that approached me?”

 And again is it not YOUR man so why are you b#tching at me about it….

*scratch,scratch,scractch,scratch*

(there are many ways that women chose to fight over their men, weather it be,over the phone, in person, physical and many other weird things)

It is soo sad how us women belittle one another all the time to prove a point to our men…Like what is that, do we see men doing that? No no no and no. Im all for love and fighting for your relationship but really now to lower yourself to confrontation and leaving him out of it all…aaaah its plain pathetic. As much as you may disagree with me on this one, its true the fact that you are willing to draw out your paws and fight for him fuels his ego…come now where is you pride. This kind of act will only make him worse he wil do it again and again because now he nows he is hot enough for two women to pull and drag at him. Why lower yourself to confront a girl that your man is going to turn around and comfort? Are you not the foolish one at the end of the day..

The best answer to that question has always been that classic line..

“at the end of the day he loves me,his mine, he is going to marry me” hahahhaha hay hay hay let us not lower ourselves in the name of marriage or the hopes of a weird love story that will develop after he is tired of cheating on you.

Are you not valuable enough to him for him not to put you in such a situation where you have to fight for him, clearly you are beautiful I mean he went for you from the get go… It is not you that should be fighting for him, it is he that should be fighting to keep your love alive…Every women deserves to be treated like a queen, and we always say it’s the girls that are wiling to settle for second best that make men naughty..no no no it’s the man that is willing to split himself in two and be shared that compromises the relationship that he perused. I mean what kind of a loyal man wants his queen to share him.. shouldnt he want to be just yours? I mean that’s what you offer him. The satisfaction of being the only person you love.

I wish us women did not find the need to argue and attack one another in the name of “love” why must we do such when there is hardly any man who would do the same, instead they will both leave you that chitter chatter about it later.. why must we always shift the blame in order to put our men on pedestals they don’t deserve to be on?

Mybe its me maybe I have not been inlove I don’t know what it is to love a man, but I have always and always will stand by my own side because you will one day realise you have no one but yourself. Take care of the one thing you will have forever that is your individual self.

Some girls are crazy out there..they will kill you and sometimes innocent people are dragged in, mybe she didn’t know he was yours? Mx mx mx  mx

My life revolves around no man

 I look at women especially young women like me and it frightens me how people are soo comfortable in saying I must marry ritch, I want a man with a flashy car etc and even the worst line I have heard..” what will do without him”.  Hopefully those expectations come after you have set some high bars for yourself!! If that’s the case then girl go and marry rich go and date that man with a flashy car to match your car to match your wealth ehheheheheh…

Have a life plan and dream, your own dream before you dream of moving in with your boyfriend and just being his girlfriend. Who are you without him?? what are you kidding me who are you in real life then because clearly you need a reality check! No one is replaceable even the doosh bag you are in love with but, I in fact well personally am sure of one thing, I wasn’t born to blow up some mans ego, I will compliment and acknowledge when necessary but I will never lower my standards to satisfy or pamper a mans ego.. It is sad how men and what they perceive to be beauty and sexy has damaged the female self esteem, be beautiful and sexy for yourself before you look into doing it for him. I think when you believe you are beautiful you carry yourself in a beautiful manner..and it makes you just that much more sexy and beautiful. Start within and with you, because when he decides or if he does to move onto the next girl your whole idea of beauty will come crashing down, because you did it for him. Im not saying don’t try and impress your lover but don’t forget about what you like and what you want. That way if you do get hurt it wont be 500 times emotionally draining. Not all men are chauvinists and not all men are power hungry. To all the ladies dating sweethearts marry that man!

They may say it’s a mans world that’s ok honey because in my world I know women who are men and women, I know women sitting in board rooms, I have friends that fight better then men and I know women who live in a women’s world.

I am not dismissing the role of a male in my life, geeez I love my dad and I know how to love who ever I chose to date etc but all I am saying is that no man deserves to have my life revolving around their ego.

age gap gap age

I have recently met an older guy and wow such a blow for me he just doesn’t look as old he says and when I talk to him I don’t feel that he is but some times well when he speaks experience or business I do.

I don’t know if Im afraid of dating him or if Im afraid that he might really like me, Iv always been at question with what old men want from young girls, but then again hahaha his not old enough to be my dad not even my mom his way to young, we have an age gap it doesn’t exceed the ten year mark and it does exceed the 5 year gap…. “aaaaah evey you over think things”..Im seeing him and kinda going with the flow gently and slowly but learning to adapt to cards iv never been dealt or played…

Someone said to me that men like younger women for three reasons: it gives them power in terms of being established and that female dependency that men like and some of them are having age issues, he doesn’t want to grow old, so being next to or with a young girl gives him that power of "aaaaah Iv still got game", then lastly there are lots of benefits when men are with younger women, you don’t know his past and you bring fresh excitement to his life soo it could be a phase… bleh bleh bleh.. I don’t like any of those reasons soo it just makes me soo nerv wrecked and knowing me duuuuude im just a shy bobble who speaks out loud. Im taking my time though trying to sass out my guy, he doesn’t speak to me in a condescending manner he takes intrest in what I say and he sure hell doesn’t look old J.

• I have also been told that the disadvantages of being with an older guy might be his older ex’s, they belittle you and look down on you calling you a man stealer or maybe that chick has daddy issues..hahahah which I find funny I guess that doesn’t apply to me because he is younger than my dads first born..I don’t know though how to handle maybe an older ex looking down on me..bahahahhaha me ill shy away from that situation and walk away like I never heard anything… then moving right along to the next diss on the older sugar..bahahaha I wonder if him being established will affect me, I doubt though because I am always on my own mission and I take note and intrest in what interests the people around me so I would hope that his achievements will stay that and not become trophies in his head, if soo nah his way too materialistic for a journalist like me. His age and achievements should never interpret into him being superior to me, who knows where ill be in the next 6 months not even year..

(whispers) I am told that older men are less active and I like to play, apparently there will be no pillow fights and other energy consuming things…hmmmm now that might be a deal breaker for me, I would like to take random drives over the weekends, weekends away, I like sport and I don’t see why we cant watch and play our own..im generally a very understanding person but id like to be understood…awuuuuu then the lastests big one…As you age, you change . will my development and achievements also maturity fade his interest in me or visa versa…Some may say I over think things but hey these are real life matters man.